"For women, arousal may be necessary for desire but not sufficient. Sometimes, women won't want sex until they've started having it and many enjoy sex without orgasming. Being desired exclusively seems to be key to female libido, which may explain why relationships initially arouse women but cease to do so as time goes on. Indeed, while men tend to find their partners more desirable over time, women often need a new partner to rekindle desire." Leslie Cannold, Fairfax Media.
Wow! There are so many things that I could say about this paragraph from Ms Cannold. Where does one start? I particularly like the part where she says: " Sometimes, women won't want sex until they've started having it..." Er, exactly what are we talking about here? Is this some kind of suggestion about (dare I say it?) that Freudian idea of the rape fantasy, or the enjoyment of coersion? A minefield if ever I saw one. Funny how in the last line Cannold seems to go against the grain with the suggestion that for sex (for women) to be enjoyable they need new partners to 'rekindle desire'. Isn't that the male cliche? Where the hell is Germaine Greer when you really need her? I want to hear more about the penetration hierarchy, you know, that whole 'those who penetrate and those who are penetrated' schtick! That I can understand!
I love reading articles like this, purely for total confusion value. Just when I thought I was starting to get a grip on Life, The Universe and Everything, along comes another writer that completely fucks-up my reality. The lens of my existence is diffused that little bit more. Face it people: sex is complex, desire is complex, people are complex. Any type of so-called objective stereotyping is wrong wrong wrong!!!
Now it's time for me to go back to chopping those cucumbers, zucchinis, melons and coconuts...